Thursday, February 17, 2011

Being true to myself didn't me giving in and give up.

Those who are confused with same gender feelings are often told that they should be "true to themselves" meaning that they accept those attractions as the way they are and they shouldn't try to change them even if they want to. I often thought about that advice. I thought about who I was and what being true to myself meant. I listed the parts of me that wanted and yearned for a heterosexual lifestyle. That list contained the emotional part of me, the social part of me and the spiritual part of me. I then thought about what parts of me want a homosexual lifestyle. I concluded that the only part of me that desired that was the physical part me. I realized that the majority of me deep down truly wanted a heterosexual lifestyle. I truly wanted to have a wife and be a father. Now I had to ask myself, "Should I let that physical part make the choice for the other parts of me? Was i being true to myself by being a homosexual?" The answer for me is clearly no. I did indeed need to be true to my myself, no matter the cost. Even though it meant embarking on the difficult journey of changing my homosexual feelings. I am grateful for that decision and I am now more myself than I have ever been.


  1. Hey Justin.
    I just thought I'd let you know that I'm really glad I found your blog. I am going through the same problem as you. I find hope in reading your blog. Keep on pushing through and I will also.
    Let's fight this together.
    Thanks for your inspiration.
    If you wish I can give you my email and we can talk.

  2. Drew.
    Thanks so much for the encouragement! Drop me line:
    Keep up the good work.
    We can do this!

  3. Justin-
    I was on Amazon searching for books about "resolving same sex attraction" and your blog was listed at the bottom of the page. I am so encouraged to have found your blog. I completely agree with this last post, but I have a real hard time getting to where you are. Thank you for being vulnerable and writing out the progress of your struggle; it will be beneficial to many. Thanks.

  4. Seth-
    I really appreciate your comments. It's typical to look up the path and to us it seems so difficult and far away. It is a big mountain to climb. It takes a lot of time and perseverance. But the only way to get there is one little step at a time. You just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep your head up and focused on goal. Imagine how good it will feel when we reach the top and know that we did it.

  5. Justin thank you! You really opened my eyes I don't have to be gay I need to fight the urges of homosexuality

  6. Even if you re-define "be true to yourself", it won't change the fact that you're gay.

  7. Hi Justin! you are a heavenly soul! you are helping many others like me...I am very much frustrated and suffocated...I came across your blog today and I feel that I have found a very good friend! I am I know that I can do it! I can fight against all odds and have a peaceful 'straight' have correctly understood the philosophy of life! I have realized that what I really want spiritually is to live a 'normal' life with my wife and children..I know I need strong determination and it's a long process but I am eager to do it! May God bless you!